Taking close relationships for granted

Aug 27 2010

People take close relationships for granted. Such relationships are parents or close friends (the kind of friends whom you share most of your secrets to)

People take parents, close friends for granted. They often make less effort to “please” / care for / think about them, as compared to new friends they’re making in the street.

Have you ever canceled a dinner with your closed friend for a meeting with a newly met (but potentially beneficial) one?

Or have you ever told your parents you’d be back home later than you promised them, just to hang out a little more with friends around?

6 responses so far

  1. I sometimes feel that I am more about looking forward than taking care of close relationships as you mentioned in the post. However, I don’t think that close relationship needs to be pleased. It is just that deep in your heart and soul, you know that. Deep inside, I know that I love my family so much! Take it easy :)

  2. Good point babe. Many times your are in debt of people around you. You care for them less than they care for you. Sometimes they know you, but you don’t really know them, parents for example.

  3. It is so true. Sometimes we are so used to taking things for granted that we only know what we have until we lose them. So when you aim far and dream big, don’t forget to appreciate little things in life.

    But think about it. If we human beings never know how to take some things for granted and make them a firm basement to freely reach for other new things, we can never grow.

    Good food for thought, dear. :)

  4. I am learning this lesson too. Thanks for the reminding post.

    Refer to “Have you ever canceled a dinner with your closed friend for a meeting with a newly met (but potentially beneficial) one?”
    => Shall it be “re-schedule” rather than “cancel”? I believe canceling is not the way to go. And re-scheduling what and how will depend on the specific situation. For “potentially beneficial”, I assume this is likely a “high-profile” person. And high-profile people tend to have busy schedule, so maybe harder to “re-schedule” compared with your friends who are likely less busy. And as close friends *understand* each other, maybe it’s easier to re-schedule also. But again, I think it depends on the specific situation, but should not cancel.

  5. I don’t think I can’t completely understand your note, but maybe I understand in part? You should think simply? That things offens occur? You write that note, it’s mean that you are still a good person?
    In this life, someone care you, and you care the others? it’s usual? Your parents and your friend are example?
    And, in the future, you come the parents, you will be like your parents – love, care of you and not expect no response from you?
    P/s: Each time I write comment your note, it’s so difficult. But that’s my opportunity to learn English? Thanks my close friend?
    (If somewhere is wrong, you can correct my fault?)

  6. I have to disagree with Huy.
    It’s a little bias. The examples you gave, it’s not about how we not care for those we love.
    Every action, comes with an opportunity cost. We chose because we think that would be best for us.

    Have you ever canceled a dinner with your closed friend for a meeting with a newly met (but potentially beneficial) one?

    If i’m your friend, I would encourage you to do so. If it’s good for you, i will support it, as a friend. No big deal. We still can see each other next time or what. Your new friend, nah, may be hard to get a chance to meet again. Didn’t you just say “potentially beneficial”. What if he’s just a boring newly met friend, would you do so ?

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