The online social network, the blogosphere, or environments alike, have inherently ignited a bad side: They dilutes people into thinking they’re better, stronger than what they actually are, mainly due to social appraisal and social recognition.
Say you have a blog, you make a nice, well-thought blog entry, people read, give nice comments, have high regard of you. That’s fine. I think that’s good.
What’s not fine is how you perceive these feedback. Would you just appreciate their comments, appraisals, or would you start thinking you’ve achieved some kind of success due to the great social appraisal?
My suspect is that, there’s a high chance people will fall to the latter. And I think that is dangerous.
They’re easily illusioned by the social appraisal and thought they’re on the way to success, or they’ve achieved something of significance.
On the other side, such people that do real work with real impacts, are truly inspiring to me. Mohammad Yunus, Wendy Kopp are among the people that bring great source of inspirations to me.
I recall a question I asked myself some time ago about why people wanted to share emotional statuses update on facebook. My answer: People are lonely, they want to seek social consolation. But I believe the actual solution comes from their own thought and sanity.
Overtime, these social networks/blogospheres creates a notion of elitism among its members. Think of it along the line of an elitist group being impressed by each other. There’s a proverb in Vietnamese that nicely captures this: “Ếch ngồi đáy giếng” – a group of frogs staying at the bottom of the well.
I’m not saying being elitist is a bad thing, my point is it’s easy for those who are in the elitist group to indulge their attitude and make themselves feel special and superior.
I also do understand elitism is important.
It’s not easy to get yourself out of this elitist mode (at least for me), since this has been the motivation/relying point for those who never realize. Ever since I realized this, I’ve been struggling to position my head in the right direction. Stay humble, and assess yourself by not what people praises or criticize, but your own beliefs and judgment. Ask yourself: Are the works you do fake, or real?
You might ask then why do I start this blog? Am I wasting my time involving in this social circle rather than doing real work?
I use this blog to reflect my thoughts, to seek sanity through writing, and to share with the world my naive oppinions about the world.