— Huy Nguyen

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(The few hard-earned lessons I got about money)

When I expected to get 400$ for a job I was about to do, someone helped me to get 1000$ instead. Surprisingly, I didn’t feel any better, as I thought I would. I felt bad, actually. To alleviate the guilt, I made sure I did 1000$ worth of work.

It’s not about how much they pay, it’s about whether you feel you deserve the amount. It’s not the more money you get that makes you satisfied, it’s the higher you think you’re worth.

 

When you’re doing well with your work, or happy with friends, it’s no problem spending more than usual to have a good break. But when you’re stuck with work, stressed with school, or just merely in a bad mood, you start to question if the penny spent is well justified.

It’s not about how much you spend, it’s about how the spending is justified, and most of the times, that depends on your mood and situation.

 

Remember this, always: What can be solved by money, should be solved by money.

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I love to move house.

When I pack my stuff, I get to decide which ones to throw away, and which ones to bring along with me. Then I realized how little stuff I actually need to live by. The more stuff I’m able to throw away without hesitation, the more content I feel, as it signifies a way of life I’ve been trying to live: a minimalistic life.

Consumerism has deeply rooted into this society. And that is just sad.

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One problem I unconsciously made frequently last time:

I was constantly trying to give people advice without trying to truly listen to their stories. Whenever a thought came up to mind while listening to someone’s story, I immediately either

  • try to cut him and speak what I thought.
  • stop listening to him, just waiting for him to finish his story, then I talk.

I was a bad listener. Or just wasn’t mindful enough.

 

People said I’ve changed so much ever since. Having fixed that bad habit is one of the changes I realized lately.

 

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Have u read this article on WSJ? How to Get a Real Education – Scott Adams (creator of Dilbert). If not, go ahead and read it before moving on.

Here’s a summary:

  1. The author proposed that we shouldn’t waste time teaching average B students things like chemistry, physics, etc, instead, we should teach them something more useful, like entrepreneurship.
  2. Then, he went on to talk about his entrepreneurial experience during college time.

Although the article is really good. There is 1 important thing I have to spot out: What he said in the introduction and what his story is about are completely different. The introduction is really irrelevant.

What he said in the introduction: “don’t teach the average B students maths, physics, literature, etc. Teach them something more useful, like entrepreneurship.”

What his story is about: him sharing his personally-molded experiences about entrepreneurship, and a couple of advices for entrepreneurs-wanna-be.

A quick reader would read through the article, feel really impressed by the story he told, and would inherently told himself: “oh yeah. So teaching entrepreneurship to average B students is the way forward” – which is essentially not the point.

Taking a bigger view from here, I think this sort of writing is dangerous. If readers are not careful enough, they would be impressed by the story he told, and inherently went on to believe the article’s title/abstract.

There should be some psychology trick/theory behind this sort of thing (use impressive A to convince them to believe irrelevant B). Any idea?

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How close you are to the person is also reflected by how comfortable it is to you, staying quiet while hanging out with him/her.

I watched the movie The Illusionist, and it made me think how good and comfortable a life I’ve been living, yet t times I’m still not happy with it, or get easily frustrated over small little things.

Smell life with your senses, and enjoy it whether it stinks or not. It is the odourless that makes life boring.

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I was inspired and fascinated by use-it.be, a website that we used when I was traveling to Brussels. And I thought I could do the same for Vietnam.

When my foreign friends ask “hey i’m going to ho chi minh city. Any places to visit/see/eat?”. I usually go like “Cool! Of course I know a lot. There’s this street restaurant that sells really cheap Vietnamese food you must try. Ehhhh but how do I tell you, it’s a bit hard to get there”. And it repeats over and over again, from friends to friends.

The true image of Vietnam, the places me and my friensd  hang out are not commonly known to the tourists. For many reasons: It’s hard to get there (sometimes you have to go into a small street to reach – hẻm), people there don’t speak English well. So the memory of Vietnam I have in mind is not the Vietnam most travelers would experience.

The idea

I imagine a little guide for young travelers to Vietnam. The guide can be download and printed out on some A4 papers.

The guide would have a little cartoonized walkable map of District 1 – where most travelers will probably end up staying around. On the map it pinpoints places that we – the local – usually hang out for food, coffee or shopping. Place like “Street coffee besides Notre-Dame Saigon” (cafe bệt nhà thờ Đức Bà) is a perfect example of these.For each place we could print a little note talking about its uniqueness, some expectations and tips to truly enjoy it. Sometimes a little history would really add the touch.

The guide would be revised updated every 3 or 6 months, according to the feedback others make. It’s important to note that the places suggested in the localguid would come from our own experiences, rather than allowing local business to pay a fee to be listed there.

Then there is the website, the website would initially host the local guide, take the feedback on the guide, and provide some other practical information like transportation and accommodations.

Also, we must understand that one’s experience in a new place is not necessary about the sights or the food it offers, but the new local people s/he meets everyday. The website will have some kind of a system that allow a traveler to find a local volunteer to reach and take him/her around. These volunteers are most likely young students who want to meet new people from different places and practise English. We could even partner with the people from CouchSurfing Vietnam to work something out.

Then there’s the Q&As section (something like stackoverflow), people can go in and ask specific questions related to Vietnam travel, we’ll have our local team/volunteers to answer them.

Scaling out

We can expand the idea to other cities as well, we can lend our resources, branding and experiences to local people at each city, helping them building their own version of VietnamLocal in their city.

Financial Sustainability

In the short term, it’s hard to find a way to fund the project. However the cost involved wouldn’t be that much, either. We can just seek donation from the travelers. I’m sure if they have a good time in Vietnam, they are willing to fork out a buck or two.

In the long term, we could open our own hostels that focus on young travelers. It won’t be the typical hostel where people use to stay overnight. It’s a place for travelers meet each other. Activities like party, wine tasting, food tasting could be carried out frequently.

We could also operate our own paid history tour among interesting historic places.

The goal

Ultimately, the purpose is to help young travelers a better experiences with Vietnam through the exposure to local people, food and sights.

 

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When we’re young people keep praising us how smart we are, out of courtesy or just saying for the sake of it. We, however, misinterpreted and took it for granted, thinking we could go far in the future.

Being smart is just overrated. The not-so-smart have one huge advantage over the smart: persistence. They are born knowing things life ain’t gonna be easy for them. They are prepared to put an extra effort into everything. That mentality, over the years, becomes a habit.

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We live in a world flooded with constant flow of news and information everyday. How many of us actually make an effort to refrain from gathering new information and sit down to reflect over what we currently have?

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Just a quick note without proper articulation.

Today, I overheard somebody said “Most jobs in the world are not fulfilling”. This hit me really hard. We the idealists (or naive?) somewhat being confident in a certain level of academic/extra-activity achievement in school usually look forward to a future where we land on the job we want, the job we enjoy doing (here comes the “Do the thing you love and you’ll never work a single day in your life” quote).

We tend to forget that sometimes we’ll have to do a job we don’t enjoy doing (“un-fulfilling”, like how the person put it). We tried to do them without knowing what we’d learn from them.

Resilience.

Work hard, my friends, pursue what you love. But to what you don’t, and it’s a must, remember resilience.

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The online social network, the blogosphere, or environments alike, have inherently ignited a bad side: They dilutes people into thinking they’re better, stronger than what they actually are, mainly due to social appraisal and social recognition.

Say you have a blog, you make a nice, well-thought blog entry, people read, give nice comments, have high regard of you. That’s fine. I think that’s good.
What’s not fine is how you perceive these feedback. Would you just appreciate their comments, appraisals, or would you start thinking you’ve achieved some kind of success due to the great social appraisal?

My suspect is that, there’s a high chance people will fall to the latter. And I think that is dangerous.

They’re easily illusioned by the social appraisal and thought they’re on the way to success, or they’ve achieved something of significance.

On the other side, such people that do real work with real impacts, are truly inspiring to me. Mohammad Yunus, Wendy Kopp are among the people that bring great source of inspirations to me.

I recall a question I asked myself some time ago about why people wanted to share emotional statuses update on facebook. My answer: People are lonely, they want to seek social consolation. But I believe the actual solution comes from their own thought and sanity.

Overtime, these social networks/blogospheres creates a notion of elitism among its members. Think of it along the line of an elitist group being impressed by each other. There’s a proverb in Vietnamese that nicely captures this: “Ếch ngồi đáy giếng” – a group of frogs staying at the bottom of the well.

I’m not saying being elitist is a bad thing, my point is it’s easy for those who are in the elitist group to indulge their attitude and make themselves feel special and superior.
I also do understand elitism is important.

It’s not easy to get yourself out of this elitist mode (at least for me), since this has been the motivation/relying point for those who never realize. Ever since I realized this, I’ve been struggling to position my head in the right direction. Stay humble, and assess yourself by not what people praises or criticize, but your own beliefs and judgment. Ask yourself: Are the works you do fake, or real?

You might ask then why do I start this blog? Am I wasting my time involving in this social circle rather than doing real work?
I use this blog to reflect my thoughts, to seek sanity through writing, and to share with the world my naive oppinions about the world.

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